- Dating is not something that we all understand till we experience it, normally we tend to question those that make drastic decisions like walking away from the relationship or even committing suicide because of a misunderstanding, but when we get to the relationship; why understand all these emotions
A young child could wish their mom did leave her behind when she filed for a divorce. But as this child grows, the reasons for the mom’s divorce become justified and she understands why the divorce happened. Sometimes for the best, sometimes for the worst
Are you stuck between the level and the sea, do you think there might be another side of the coin?
Well, this article is going to give you a great overview of whether to hold on or to move on.
the real deal breakers In a relationship
To start with, somethings might not be said as much often publicly but they should be non negotiable so let me give you a reason to pack and go.
1) If your partner is violent.I don’t care what society is going to tell you but a violent person remains violent regardless of how many apologies they make. Can be man or women. There’s no segregation because violence is not attached to a particular gender. So before you lose a limb or at worse lose your life, pack and go.
2) If the thought of your partner leaves you restless. Everytime their name is mentioned, you begin to worry about what they are going to say or do to you. Now this is your mental health at stake so before you seek mental asylum, pack and go.
3) If you are always treating infections after a meet up. Yes, I know you are in denial but your hygiene is not to blame, your toilet is clean but you just don’t know how big your sex circle is. So yeah before you get the incurable diseases, it’s high time you left the relationship.
You might want to read this; Should a Forgotten Gift be a Deal-Breaker?
The red flags you can reason with in a relationship
I don’t know what you are thinking but let’s go on to the red flags that will surely become green if you work on them.So if you are going through a rough time but you need to know if you can hold on then this your sign to consider leaving that relationship unless otherwise
- If your partner goes silent suddenly
I know you want to know why and sometimes you feel like attention is being given to someone else but that’s not a reason to walk away. People tend to go numb when they are going through a hazardous state so this could be the period. The best you can do is give them the space they need and communicate about how their silence makes you feel like. This will surely do something. In the meantime you can keep busy with something so that you don’t overthink it through.
- Your relationship is a secret but you want it to be known.
If your partner insists on having a private relationship but you are not the type that understands why the relationship should be a secret then don’t rush to leave. Some people naturally prefer their privacy, so sit down and talk through this. One of you should be ready to change
- If you no longer see the person you fell in love with when you look at your partner.
I have heard people say,”I fell in love with a petite woman but she’s now too fat I can’t date her anymore”. Hold on, wait, such things shouldn’t be the real deal breakers. Just like climate changes, people change so talk to your partner and get solutions for the current changes. Work it out .
Although I might prompt you to walk away, sometimes there’s a force telling you to stay. And when I tell you to stay, something might tell you to go.
At this state, the best I can say is choose your mental health over anything else.
Remember there’s plenty of fish in the sea but some of it is poisonous
Also read this;Why Couples Break Up Due to the “Grass is Greener” Social Media Mentality
